‘Do you have a crush on my husband?’: A Woman Illegally Extracts Colleague’s Husband’s Number From Work Database to Message Him About His Annoying Wife

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Feb 6, 2024 12:00 PM EST

The workplace can ignite a lot of confusion, mixed emotions, and strange interpersonal interactions. Sometimes your colleagues are just colleagues, meaning they're not your friends per say. There's not a relationship of trust built in, and the world can offer a lot of temptations and other unreasonable people doing unreasonable things. 

Some people aren't as mature as others. Some people lack a self-respect, and a respect towards others. As coworkers, it's important to at the very least have a semblance of respect towards your equals. We're all adults, and we should act as such. This means not hitting on your colleagues husband and stalking him the day after you meet. It means not finding his number in the company database to contact him about his nagging wife. Some people don't know any better, and for that we laugh at them and all the ridiculous situations that arise in this crazy life. 

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    Posted by u/jadenicole_gardens 3 days ago WIBTAH If I complain about my coworker who messaged my husband?
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    Yesterday we had year end inventory day at my new job I started 3 months ago. I (35f) was asked to bring a friend as my partner to help, we all brought our husband's and wives, a few "children" with their boyfriends etc. I brought my husband (36m) My 1 coworker (34f) did not bring anyone, she just helped each
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    group of partners through out the day. Everything was great we had a wonderful day and inventory was nearly perfect so we got praised. Anyways.... the next morning I get to work at 8am and 4 minutes into my day my coworker, who did not bring anyone, asked if my husband has a brother that's single and specifically "looks exactly like him".
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    I said no, he only has a sister. She said " oh that's a shame so he doesn't have a brother?" Me again: "no... why? Do you have a crush on my husband?" She literally laughed like a little school girl. Let me start by saying I am FAR from jealous. I know my husband is attractive, I know I am too. I know my husband is successful, I know I am too. I
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    know my husband is hilarious, kind, makes everyone feel heard and important, that's the exact reason I married him. I thought it was cute she liked him, this did not upset me. She then went on to talk about him almost any chance she could for the entirety of the day. And again, this did not upset me. At all, he's
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    most likely not coming back here, at least until the next year end inventory day, she's having a crush it'll pass by next week. What did upset me.... when I got home at 4:30pm he showed me that at 1:24pm she texted him... and I quote "Hey **** (spells his name wrong...) how are you today? Your lady is really bothering me."
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    So this woman, went into our system, found my husband's phone number, and deemed it ok to text him in this manner. Of course he did not respond. Of course he thought it was absolutely insane. And now I'm getting ready for work today, and I will see her in the next hour and a half after her
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    doing this, and I'm not sure how I should or will react. Like I said I am very far from jealous I understand crushes and feelings and emotions etc but someone going to this level to contact my husband turns me into a grizzly bear. WIBTHA if I told HR she did this... we work for a very large billion dollar company who takes these
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    things very seriously, shed essentially lose her job.
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    UPDATE: Firstly just clarifying, my husband and all the helpers were paid well for their work, the "children" were 24+, we needed 10 extra people for 1 day, it wasn't slave work we had a great day and it was nice introducing my husband to everyone and meeting others wives.
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    We're going through a very large merger at work and today was VERY busy, our head managerial team was not in. I did tell my assistant manager what had happened, showed him the photo of the text message and explained that I was very upset with my coworker. He was flabbergasted and tomorrow we will sit down and
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    tell our General Manager what happened. He asked me what my resolution would look like but we both agreed that once the GM knows its not exactly up to me anyways because of the breech in privacy.
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    I do feel terrible, but she really shot herself in the foot, I've done nothing but be very nice to her, even the "your lady is bothering me" wasn't warranted because I wasn't even bothering her
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    RedSAuthor 3 days ago Flirting is not a crime but coworker getting private information is. She should be reported.
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    NUKEtheMIDDLEeast. 3 days ago Indeed, this is a breach of privacy. Kindly bring this over to HR.
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    LaPiscinaDeLaMuerte. 3 days ago Not to mention that if she got her husbands phone number, she also had access to their address and possibly more information (i.e. his
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    information (i.e. his place of work if it was an emergency contact card type thing). 100% go to HR.
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    Eat MyCupcakeLA . 2 days ago And to text him talking his wife. about
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    DaughterEarth. 2 days ago That's immaturity and the company won't care. Like I do agree too that it's very messed up but it's not a part if this the company cares about too much. The accessing
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    private information is what affects them and in all jobs I've had would be an instant fire followed by fixing the flaw in data security
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    Eat MyCupcakeLA. 2 days ago Oh I mean the OP. Lol it would take everything in me not to knock her on her Odd how the coworker would think the husband
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    would just carry on conversation like nothing and not let the wife know she was texting him. People are so weirddddd.
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    PatchworkStar · 2 days ago My thoughts too. She's untrustworthy. She deserves the punishment. Company information is not for her benefit.
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    Apart Foundation1702. 3 days ago Exactly! OP she deserves to lose her job! She has broken many employment laws, by accessing the computer for personal reasons, unauthorised use etc. She needs to find herself at the unemployment office. NTA
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    Disastrous-Panda5530 · 3 days ago I agree. And that is exactly why she should report it to HR. If she loses her job she only has herself to blame. Even if OP isn't jealous this was way out of line.
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